don't forget

We do a disservice to ourselves to forget. We need to remember it all as it was and not demonize or romantize it. the good is not lost when bad occurs. we should not forget the good times just because of the pain of loss. It is very human to dwell in one or other, to let one color our whole world, but it doesn't have to be that way. I shouldn't forget how to laugh when I learn to cry or vise versa. I shouldn't push away things that bring me joy because they remind me of someone that brought me pain.We can laugh and cry at the same time. Feel love and loss, and neither negate the other. in reality they are more the same than there true opposite of apathy. I want to live life as much as I can. To know that there will be pain and joy and not run from either. Both will come and both will go. I will be changed by both, and I can grow if I try. Don't be afraid of caring. don't stop yourself from joy because it might bring sorrow and don't stop yourself from pain because it may just lead to happiness. I'm trying to remember what was, the things I loved, things that hurt, the lesson I gained from each; and not lose myself in one or the other.